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A non-farmer once asked me, “How much can your pig eat?” I told him I didn’t know because I’ve never seen him full.

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The Pig, the Farmer, and the Enabler

When someone asks, “How much can your pig eat?” and you say, “I don’t know — I’ve never seen him full,” it points to more than appetite.

It points to the role of the one doing the feeding.

A pig eats without limit because someone keeps filling the trough.

That’s the essence of enabling.

1. Enablers Remove Natural Limits

In life, “pigs” come in many forms:

• A child who overspends because a parent always rescues him
• An adult who avoids responsibility because someone else covers for her
• A friend who keeps making the same mistakes because nobody tells them “no”
• A coworker whose poor performance continues because others do their job for them

If the trough keeps getting filled, the appetite stays bottomless.

2. Enablers Think They’re Helping — But They’re Not

Farmers feed pigs for good reasons.
Enablers “feed” people for reasons that feel good:

• avoiding conflict
• wanting to be needed
• fear of rejection
• trying to fix everything
• not wanting someone to struggle

But the result is the same:
the pig never learns how much it actually needs.

3. The Pig’s Appetite Is Natural — The Overfeeding Is Optional

Some people simply have:

• endless demands
• endless excuses
• endless crises
• endless dependencies

Their “appetite” isn’t the surprising part.
What matters is whether the trough is bottomless or not.

You can’t always change a person’s appetite.
But you can stop delivering endless loads of corn.

4. The Real Wisdom: Fullness Isn’t Possible When Someone Else Keeps Pouring

An enabler can unintentionally create the very problem they’re trying to solve:

• giving too much
• rescuing too quickly
• tolerating too long
• supporting without boundaries

It’s the same principle:
If you’re waiting for the pig to say “I’ve had enough,” you’ll be feeding forever.